Are you attempting to earn the trust of someone and not getting very far? The reason for this could be that you don’t even trust yourself. The way you portray yourself to others has a lot to do with trust, respect and sincerity.
If you were to ask someone about trust they would tell you that it is a quality that needs to be earned. People don’t freely give out trust, do you? So if you want to earn trust from someone you need to work on earning their respect first.
It takes several things to earn a person’s trust. First it means showing people that you actually do as you say. Examples of this include promising to give someone and ride and picking them up on time. It means taking the time to listen to someone even if you are in a rush. As a person begins to see that they can depend on you, their trust level increases.
As we mentioned earlier, it is important that you trust yourself. You must trust your emotions and act on them. One of the best ways to earn trust is to open the lines of communications. This can be difficult for some people. They just don’t like to show their emotions at all. This can lead to someone thinking that you don’t care, when you really do.
If you have trouble sharing your feelings then think about how you can “show” instead of “tell” someone that you care about them. Sometimes it is these little actions that can speak volumes. Try buying that someone special a gift for no reason at all. Be there without question when they are feeling down.
When you learn to trust your own feelings then other people will view you as a more honest and open person. This immediately makes a huge difference when it comes to earning trust.
Remember that no-one is perfect, we all have flaws and we all have things that upset us. When you show this side to others they see you as more approachable, and not standoffish.
As relationships develop the level of trust should increase. If you tell your partner or spouse that you will be late for dinner, they should accept this without question. If they start wondering what you are doing and why then this is a signal that you are not communicating enough.
Always keep in mind that trust must be earned and it can take a long time to form that type of bond. However, once it is in place, cherish it and don’t let your levels of communication drop.
Randy Bett is the author of three books - 7 Secrets of Real Estate Investing, Investing in Real Estate Sucks Unless... and The Value Driven Approach To Sell Real Estate.
He is also a retired high school teacher and former Saskatchewan farm kid. He now writes, speaks and coaches full time. He is happily married and has 2 children and 2 grandaughters. He lives in Red Deer, Alberta.